Living the ‘Good Life’

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Living the ‘Good Life’
by Rick Warren

For we are God’s masterpiece.

He has created us anew in Christ Jesus,

so that we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

Ephesians 2:10

 

 

A few years ago the planned community of Mission Viejo, California launched an advertising campaign to attract home buyers. They used phrases like “Mission Viejo: the California Promise” and “The place to live the Good Life.”

Although “the Good Life” is a well-worn phrase in our culture,

I wonder how many people have ever stopped to define what exactly it is.

 

For some people the Good Life is confused with looking good.

They are preoccupied with appearance, as if that is all that really matters in life.

In America our culture idolizes beauty and puts a premium on being attractive.

Advertisers capitalize on this knowing that the promise of “looking good” causes us to spend billions on beauty products,

tanning salons, plastic surgery, liposuction, custom color coordination, and the latest styles in clothing.

 

For others the Good Life is confused with feeling good.

Their goal is the minimization of pain and the maximization of pleasure,

and they will use whatever it takes to achieve it: hot tubs, Disneyland, cocaine, virtual reality, world travel, the latest movie.

The pleasure and entertainment industry is now the largest industry in America.

The old 60’s phrase, “If it feels good, do it” has become the modus operandi for much of our society.

 

For others the Good Life is confused with having the goods.

Their chief ambition is to collect all the goods and goodies of life.

They make as much as they can and spend it as fast as they can.

 

Some honestly identify their values with bumper stickers that say “The one with the most toys wins.”

Others are not that brazen but they still believe that the Good Life is something that can be bought.

The truth is: none of these things ultimately satisfy.

 

· No matter what you do, you can’t stop the aging process.

· Pleasure is a by-product of the Good Life, not the goal of it.

· The greatest things in life are not things!

 

So what is the Good Life? It is the personal fulfillment and joy that comes from being good and doing good.

It is the result of discovering and becoming exactly what God created you to be.

Nothing else will fill that void in your soul.

 

The Bible says this: “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus,

so that we can do the good things he planned for us long ago” (Ephesians 2:10).

 

When you use your life to help others, to do good, and to know and trust God,

you will feel good about yourself.

That is the Good Life.

Don’t let anybody con you into thinking it is something else!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Breaking Through the Sound Barrier
by Rick Warren

Don’t use foul or abusive language.

Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

Ephesians 4:29

 

 

Poor communication is the most frequently mentioned problem in marriage counseling.

To really communicate, you must give up three things.

 

You must give up your assumptions.

We get into trouble when we start assuming we understand the meaning of what people say to us.

The truth is everything you hear goes through a filter.

Your filter is determined by your past experiences and your unique personality.

 

You may not be hearing what the other person is really saying.

Therefore, it’s smart (and safe) to ask for clarification.

There are six possible messages every time you speak:

 

· What you mean to say and what you actually said.

· What they heard and what they think they heard.

· What they say about it and what you think they said about it.

 

Proverbs 18:13 says, “What a shame, what folly, to give advice before listening to the facts!”

 

You must give up your accusations.

You never get your point across by being cross.

Anger and sarcasm only make people defensive and that kills communication.

Here are four common forms of accusation:

 

· Exaggerating – Making sweeping generalities like “You never” or “You always.”

· Labeling or derogatory name calling – Labeling never changes anyone. It only reinforces the negative behavior.

· Playing historian – Bringing up past failures, mistakes, and broken promises.

· Asking loaded questions which really can’t be answered, like “Can’t you do anything right?”

 

You must give up your apprehensions.

Fear prevents honest communication.

It causes us to conceal our true feelings and fail to confront the real issues.

The two most common apprehensions are the fear of failure and the fear of rejection.

 

But real communication can happen when you face your fear and risk being honest.

Freedom is the result of openness.

Jesus said, “The truth will set you free” (John 8:32).

 

 

 

 

 

 

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